My little dream turns 18 months today. It is unbelievable that Aryan has been with us from 1.5 years. Each day has been different since he was born.Life has been on a roller coaster. So many things to do at the same time. But then, a smile from him makes my day and my nights. A smile thats as refreshing as the morning sun. Anything for your smile my dear son!
We love you sweetheart. Hope you grow up to be happy, healthy and Intelligent. And get all the success and happiness in life.
I don’t usually write updates. It just don’t click to me. But DECEMBER was the MILESTONE month for Aryan. So “update toh banta hai bhaiya” ..:D
And why do I say so ?
1.My little Aryan walks now. Though he is still to discover that walking is better than crawling. To him , walking is still a game. But he does !!!! And he enjoys…you should see that acheivement on his face !!!!This was something which was on my mind since so long and its such a relief now.
2.Remember the fight we had over his feeding bottles in the month of August. We have compromised on a sipper. They always win you see but I did not loose this time.
3. He keeps learning and forgeting words. So now that he has forgotten to say “Nahi” , he has learnt to say “Bow Bow”
4. He has recently started loving books and he likes to spend some time with his favourite animal book every day.
4. He knows his ‘nosy’ and his ‘tummy’ and he can show you as well.
Aryan is almost one year and 2 months old.He is not yet walking.He pulls up to stand with support and moves a few steps with support , but he never attempts to move without support. Some say thats okay while others say he is late.
He speaks only 2 words clearly , which are Mumma and Papa. There are 2 more word like sounding noises ,”bahar” and “aaja”. But only I claim them to be words.
I have spoken to his doctor about these issues and he said , we have nothing to worry as yet. So, why this post ? Am I worried at the back of my mind ? Am I apprehensive ?
I do not know if I should believe in Jyothish (astrology) or not. But quite recently my father’s astrologer friend said Aryan will walk only when he will be 1.5 years old and talk when he is close to 2 years. Since I admit , that despite of having a logical mind , I do believe in astrology to some extent at the back of my mind , I should no longer be worried. Especially when both the doctor and astrologer speak similiar.
But probably I am even more worried now. One reason is the social pressure. Whoever calls these days , asks us with great confidence “Aryan must be walking now ?” and we have to say no. To which they will console us , “Oh that its ok” (Though they never sound convincing).
Now with 4 more months to go before he actually walks (as per the astrologer , if thats true), I am not prepared to address all those phone calls. Plus we have a vacation planned in November , when we will face all the relatives. I am not prepared to address and bear with their apprehensions about my son.Nor do I have any valid answer ready for them. I definitely do not want to say about the prediction , since even I am not fully convinced by that.
Another reason ofcourse is the fear of unknown.I do not trust astrology 100%. Doctor said nothing to worry as YET. Four months seems like four years to me.
Probably only time will answer my fears. Meanwhile , I can do nothing much about the apprehensions , both mine and of others.
Day 2 (Thursday)
We decided that I should join for the drop even today.We kissed Aryan and said bye to him , before handing him over to the maid.We told him that we will come to pick him up and he can have fun till then.Told him not to cry and eat well.He did not cry while going to her and till he could see us.We heard him crying from inside though.
I called around 11.30 and she told , he was not crying and had morning snacks.She said all the morning he did not let anyone come near to him and cried when we took him to other kids.Then I called around 3.00, he has had his lunch.He slept for 1 hour in the morning and 2 hours in evening.Paati said that he was quiet but wanted to be alone.Evening he started little bit crawling in his room though.I told her that he might be scared of too many people and asked her to leave him with 2-3 kids.It worked and she told that he loved observing them.Anupam picked him up around 5.30 and he told Aryan was crawling in the room when he reached.
Day 3 (Friday)
Anupam dropped him to the place and I said a bye to him , before I got down for my office.He cried while going to the maid.He ate usual.He crawled outside to the other room.He made friends with Paati and maids, but was still scared to go near the kids.He loved watching them from distance though.
Evening I decided to give a surprise visit and spend sometime there , playing with him.He could sense me as I stepped in.He was playing and the door was half shut , but as I stepped he turned around and cried for me.He was happy as soon as I took him in my arms.He smiled at everyone from my lap.But did not want me to sit there.Wanted to come back home.He looked for his papa , as he heard a car horn, who planned to pick us up after 30 minutes.So ,aryan and I roamed inside the place, talking to kids and maids and Paati.Idea was to make him feel at home.I could see that he was not scared of anyone.But was just not comfortable as there were so many kids.I made him play with another kid , but the other kid dominated as he was little older. Aryan greeted his Papa with a smile.
On the whole , it seems that things will be good very soon.Another milestone achieved for the baby and more importantly for the parents !!!
“Finally !!” is what was on my mind when he moved ahead. Aryan(Aru) was trying to crawl since long and every single day my husband would estimate about in how many days will he be able to crawl and my MIL and I would thumbs up to what he says.
But all in vain. None of the estimates worked and he could only try and try and try.I lost hopes for his crawling and thought he will probably walk directly as I did.Sometimes when people asked me , “Did he crawl?” , I would joke that Aru has decided to swim and fly ..and crawling is not something he wants. Quite recently though , just about a week back , he started moving in reverse gear ,in sitting postion itself.
Now that he started crawling ..we have started estimating the time for his walking. I know he will prove us wrong again.I think better we should enjoy looking at him , crawling on his tummy using his hands and mastering the skill. And let him enjoy the same too for quite some time 🙂
Today I know ,one fine day he will decide to walk too and its better to give him, his own time.