I have attended 2 presentations from a group called TimeLife(Tiem warner Brand). They offer a home library for the kids of 0-12 years which they call as Total Development Program.
Though I appreciate that the books are of good quality and the concept and content is good I have my doubts.
Oneis that its mighty expensive , atleast in Indian Rupees.
Plus I am not sure if it makes sense to get a home library from one company or get books as and when needed for the kid. My point is if he gets a new book he getes attracted to it for its new. If we buy loads of books and keep , all of then in same size and look and feel ,it might be too monotonous for him.
Also that I fear that once i would buy I would insist on him to go through them and that might backfire.
So I am thouroughly confused. I need help!
Has anyone used these books ? Could you tell me if its worth the investment , not in terms of content but in terms of practical use.
Aryan completed 2 years and 8 months this saturday. I was just looking back at the time that just passed by and I realized that through out this journey of motherhood there is one thing that I did all on my own and I feel most satisfied about. And that one thing was deciding about what should be fed to my child. I am not saying feeding my child because he was fed by my MIL and then his day care people while I worked but I was the one who has always planned his daily meals and i feel pretty satified with the job I have done.
And so I thought I would share my experiences about baby feeding and some things that worked for me. I was initially posting it on healthy and tasty but then I refrained because I am not giving any facts here but just an experience.
One thing that I always believed was that I cannot, could not and should not follow any meal plan or diet chart available on internet. So though I read plenty of material on baby feeding I never really got stuck to one. I just grabbed whatver I liked from each of them.
And one thing that I grabbed was that we should try and include all the different food groups in every day’s diet. But then I was never sat and checked out if I covered everything. I had a broad picture of what foods are rich in carbohydrates ,fats , protiens and I knew that fruits and vegetables are important.
I followed few thumb rules :
Never get overboard with anything , strike a balance between taste ,health and feasibility. Take inputs from everyone but follow your heart.
Respect my child’s preferences and opinion but try to introduce healthy foods to him.Never ever feed him forcefully , if he is hungry he would take it and one day of hunger or junk foods doesnot mean the end of world.
Provide variety to the kid , if I get bored of same stuff so will he.
Your child should get used to your kind of food slowly and steadily.Kids follow by example , if we indulge into loads of junk food , so would they.
So when I stand up in the kitchen in the mornings, I pretty much think this way that if I am giving oats in breakfast in need to give dal rice in lunch , some fruits and bread in evening snacks. And the lunch has to be loaded with veggies as well.
But this need not be fixed every day and so though I cover everything every day I swap timings and preparations like wheat can go in form of bread , paratha, upma, pasta etc. Rice in form of khichidi , uttapam , pulav etc. Fruits should go raw as much as possible. Veggies can be added in breakfast and lunch easily.
For the last thumb rule , here is what I do/did.
I never grinded him food in mixer , I just sieved it out. And slowly started mixing small chunks to it.
I try and make common breakfast for all of us , saves some time as well. Aryan always eats what we eat for dinner from the time he got 10 teeth. Till then as well he used to taste whatever we ate. Plus weekends doesnot involve speacial cooking for him , he eats whatever we eat, be it junk food at times.
Its not that feeding him has been smooth like it feels from this post. I have my own bad days when I feel pissed off and he literally does not want to eat or is too busy to eat and then becomes too cranky. But those days as well are part of his growing up and we cannot really do much about them.Like any mother such days bring stress to me as well but then I have learnt to live with them.
In all I am happy with the way I am doing atleast in this field of parenting..Touch wood ! Any suggestions are always welcome !
This is something thats on my mind for past 2 days and I am not able to get out of it.
My very close friend went through something that I wish no one (not even my biggest enemy) should ever go through.And I came to know so recently.
Her 1.5 months old was diagnosed of a birth defect and had to go through a major surgery. He was in ICU for more than a month in the most reputed and famous(for good and bad reasons) hospitals of India.
It was a problem so severe that it should have been diagnosed during pregnancy but it was not. And then the ordeal they faced for a month due to carelessness and selfishness of hospital staff, it was all just so horrible.
I can and I wish to blabber out all the details, but then they are just too personal and I have no rights to write them on my blog.
I have mixed feelings , one of empathy for her , a woman can bear anything but can not see her kid suffering , two of anger , why she of all the people in this world , she already has had her share of problems early in life ..why again , three of self hatred for not being able to help her during her time of need and for being even ignorant of her problems for over an month , atleast I could have given her some emotional support and four of frustation and hatred for the medical system in india.
Please pray for the little one , may he recover soon and may he grows up to be strong physically , emotionally and mentally!
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“ISTJs are often called inspectors. They have a keen sense of right and wrong, especially in their area of interest and/or responsibility. They are noted for devotion to duty. Punctuality is a watchword of the ISTJ. The secretary, clerk, or business(wo)man by whom others set their clocks is likely to be an ISTJ.”
– ISTJ Profile (TypeLogic)
“ISTJs are very loyal, faithful, and dependable. They place great importance on honesty and integrity. They are “good citizens” who can be depended on to do the right thing for their families and communities. While they generally take things very seriously, they also usually have an offbeat sense of humor and can be a lot of fun – especially at family or work-related gatherings.”
– Portrait of an ISTJ (The Personality Page)
“…characterized by decisiveness in practical affairs, are the guardians of institutions, and if only one adjective could be selected, “super dependable” would best describe them.”
– The Portrait of the Inspector Guardian (Keirsey) “…private, does not appreciate strangeness, not adventurous, not spontaneous, follows the rules…”
– Jung Type Descriptions (ISTJ) (similarminds.com)
“At work, ISTJs get things done on a timely basis. They honor deadlines, and they believe in thoroughness. A half-finished job is not a job well done. They established procedures and schedules, and are uncomfortable with those who do not do the same. ISTJs put duty before pleasure. As long as they can fulfill their responsibilities, they feel useful and thereby satisfied. Their work does not have to be fun, but it has to count toward something productive. ISTJs believe that vacations are something that one takes only when work has been accomplished; thus, at times they do not take vacations even when they could and should.”
– ISTJ – The Reliant (Lifexplore)
Do you think they are right about me ?
Then I was what HE is now,
and then SHE was, what I am now.
I was careless and sometimes naughty,
And I used to cry over things very petty.
SHE was patient and sometimes angry,
But I knew she would forgive, before sun sets.
Then I was what HE is now ,
and SHE was , what I am now.
HE is my child and SHE is my mom !
Time just flies, before we know.
I know some day, HE will grow up and go
And I will wait like SHE does now,
To see him when his time allows.
** This is my contribution to Sunday Scribblings.
Tags: Holi, WomenDay
First of all , Belated wishes of Women’s day!
How was your day ! Our day was made special by our office people.
On 6th , the cafeteria was decorated with rangoli and flowers. Table mast were laid and there was some flowers on each table. All teh ladies were welcomed at the gate with a rose.The higher management served food to all the employees , special food with welcome drink , some chat, ice cream and sweet and a pan to close.
And all this was kept as a surprise ! Nice isn’t it ! I think it was a great gesture , especially in current times !
Now , here is wishing you a very happy holi !
May the spirit of holi leaves you drenched with joy!<
Like you know we took a 10 days off and went to attend 2 weddings. So I managed to steal 3 days of f the hectic wedding routine and went to see my parents. And from there we went to my grand parents house(kind of a farm house) for a day. The house which we spent our childhood in and the house where I stayed with my uncle’s family for my PG.
It was like a dream come true for me. In last 4 years (after wedding) this was my 2nd visit to that place. Earlier I went for an hour without Anupam when Aryan was only a month old. Like I mentioned in one of the posts long back , that house has got so many associated memories to it. I so much wanted to share all that with Anupam. Wanted to show him the famous places in the house about which he has been hearing since long. Yeah yeah , famous means the places with associated incidents and memories , like a dried pond in which we played cricket with a hockey stick :P. And my favourite spots of introspection and self study.
I so much wanted to see Aryan running into the fields like we did , catching birds and butterflies. I know he is too young for my stories but still I was sure he would enjoy the open space and he did !
I also took Anupam around the city to my eat outs. And he acknowleged that it was worth it , especially with all the excitement and happiness on my face 🙂 So sweet of him 🙂
We met all the relatives and spent nice time.
Apart from that trip , at my home , we spent lovely time with my parents and brother’s family. Aryan played his role as big brother , only when his cousin was away from Anupam and me. As soon as we took Tejas (brother’s son) he cried to be carried as well. Good part was that he was okay if we carried both together. Tejas is the most adorable and happy baby I have ever seen ! Touchwood! He became so possessive about me that he wanted to be in my lap and did not want me to take aryan at all.
My sis in law treated us with loads of rajasthani dishes served in rajasthani style.
Here are a few pics :
“Big Brother rocking the cradle”
“Trying to get hold of birds”
“My Cricket field”
“Aryan and Tejas with My dad”
“Roaming in fields”
“Yay..dream come true !”
“My Favourite spot to study”
“My Favourite Temple”
“Running in the temple”
Also checkout wedding pics here.